Dad, Mom, and baby Meghan

Dad, Mom, and baby Meghan

Saturday, October 25, 2008

Just a little (A LOT) sad

Election year brings out the worse in folks, and I think that for a few months, our tempers are shorter, and our tolerance diminishes with it. I cannot wait for the election to be over, and though I am uneasy about the outcome, I want some sense of normalcy to return to my life, and my friendships, I am lucky to have friends who vary from me in their thinking, but with enough respect for one another to allow for the difference. I am not foolish enough to believe that things will be better after the election; in fact, I believe we have a few years of very complicated financial and ethical issues to work through.

I have been reading blogs and folks have tried to explain their positions on various subjects, and they are attacked in their comment sections. I read what some folks have said in response to the authors posts and my stomach hurt, I began grinding my teeth and my head began to pound. These are good folks who were wounded by extremely unkind, hateful, despicable comments, upset by others who claim to be good people, good Christians. What offended me the most was a comment a person left in a blog I really enjoy reading. The blog author wrote about orphans who need families and how they felt that the laws many states are trying to pass to prevent gay and lesbian couples from adopting were wrong. (This is simplified) They went further to say that, all children deserve a family. Who is to say which kind of family is acceptable? I completely agree, I do not believe in hate law, and this is what this is. The person who left their message on their blog said it is better to let the children die in the orphanages and be with Jesus than to live in a home filled with sin, they used the vile term; abominations (cringe). They were willing to sacrifice the lives of hundreds of thousands of children to prevent them from being raised by loving parents, and only because they were gay. It horrified me; this dreadful intolerance.

They say they want to protect the children from dear Lord gasp SINNERS, and by golly, lets pass a law to be certain none of these unworthy sinners can ever be married or adopt children. Who among us has not sinned, whom I ask you are not sinners? How can anyone point their finger at another and proclaim them thus without looking in the mirror and pronouncing themselves the same. I will also say, that using the word sinner is not something I do; I am making the point based on what the person leaving the comment on the blog wrote.
I worry about what this legislation will do to the children of the families being attacked here. What happens to the children in these non-traditional families, are they suffering because they have two moms or dads, yes, but not because of the parents who love them. Instead, the children of the intolerant, those who proclaim the unworthiness of LGBT couples to be parents, undoubtedly cause their suffering, their parents will make sure they know about their feelings concerning these non-traditional families and in turn, the children will spread their bigotry.

There are many different types of non-traditional families; children who lost their parent(s) and grandma, aunt, uncle, sister, or brother are raising them. Maybe daddy died and mommy is raising the children on her own. Maybe their parents divorced.

The ads on TV trying to get folks to pass a law to change Arizona’s constitution say a marriage is defined as a union before God between a man and a woman, together with their children; they make up a family unit. Therefore, they are telling these children their families are lesser than children with a mommy and daddy are. Of course, if I am to follow the commenter on the blog, this is OK, we can let these children suffer and hope they die quickly so they can be with Jesus, it will save them from an unspeakable fate….

I grew up believing God loves all of his children, ALL OF HIS CHILDREN. When we start to decide whom is worthy of God’s love based on color, race, religion, sexual orientation, nationality, or because of a disability, then it is my contention that we ourselves are the abominations. Do you believe God is encouraging us and declaring, “This causes me great joy, and this is what I wish for my children on earth”.

I know I do not hold a popular view, I truly do not care, I know in my heart that loving everyone even if I do not agree with them is what God wants of me, and how I try to live my life. I love you all despite not understanding the feelings that make you so afraid of others who are not exactly like you; but please; if you do not have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all. ( I am certain I will get one comment like I always do anyway LOL) I already know how some feel about this issue, no need to spread the revulsion, keep it to yourselves.

3 comments:

Jennifer said...

I'm so glad you wrote this! I feel exactly the same way, no matter how many people disagree with me!

Unknown said...

i have oen thing hope u dotn mind but what cenury r we in soemone said that on the charge gorup this morn bout soemthing and jsut reading that made me watn to say that again people out there jsut dotn get it as long as the child is loved i dotn care who they go to all i want for those kids otu there is the love and care jstu like i know you give amanda and kara and i love u for it hugs ellen in aus

Nia said...

You go, Mom. Too often, people forget that they must lead their lives with compassion. If you are a christian, then the creed follows: "Judge not, yest ye be judged."
and:
"He that hateth dissembleth with his lips, and layeth up deceit within him; When he speaketh fair, believe him not: for there are seven abominations in his heart. Whose hatred is covered by deceit, his wickedness shall be shewed before the whole congregation."

I am in agreement with you. We must spread love.

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